Mar 27, 2020
One of my all-time favorite podcasts is Episode 16, where my good friend Tami Schow and I talk about healthy boundaries.
Given the COVID-19 self-quarantine that we're all experiencing, I thought healthy boundaries might be a great thing to talk about. And no, it's not another way of saying "social distancing!" Nope, they happen when we recognize what we actually have control over, and what we don’t.
So does everyone else. Underneath it are your own thoughts, feelings, values, etc.
And no one else is responsible for what’s under yours.
When you’re under someone else’s umbrella, it means they don’t have to be responsible for their own stuff – because you’re doing the job for them
Trying to control their thoughts, feelings, values, etc. will backfire
When we dialog about what is good, loving, and healthy rather than what makes me happy, we can have more productive conversations
Sometimes you hold conflicting values – you have to figure out what value has priority in that moment and situation
My responsibility as a parent is to train, model, and reinforce with the hope that they will adopt my values and beliefs.
Speaking of favorites, here is a quote that's been helpful as we face the uncertainty of the Coronavirus pandemic.