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the stuck stops here - tami altman On the New York City Podcast Network

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Toxic family patterns travel though generations until someone decides to take the brave and painful step to end it. My name is Tami and my cohost is LW. We are ordinary people sharing what we have learned in hopes to inspire other ordinary people to wake up, heal, laugh and find their own path to healing. We are not life coaches. We are not licensed therapists. We keep it raw and real and want to the be the voice of the unheard and take the subject of emotional abuse more seriously than we take ourselves…and we use bad words. I hit rock bottom in 2014. It was a painful process to understand and accept that my parents (and my grandparents) were not good people that act bad sometimes, but sadly bad people that act good sometimes. For the last 100 + years, my family lived lives filled with rage, blame, greed, rejection, abandonment, shame, guilt and lies while pretending everything was fine. On my healing journey, I faced the emotionally toxic ties between myself and my ancestors that caused both sides of my family to in denial and to live false unhappy lives. Until a few short years ago, I could not answer the question “Who am I? Breaking free from poisonous (and invisible) familial chains was difficult and resulted in an identity crisis and total collapse – more than once. To mourn the childhood I deserved and didn’t get as well as mourning the loss of people who are still alive was and continues to be life defining. My healing journey resulted in dozens of AHA! moments and I ended up discovering that my existence was dictated and controlled, both consciously and unconsciously, by a long history of emotional abuse and neglect. I learned about self-compassion and about the role I played in my own misery. My journey, has led to a podcast and book both called The Stuck Stops Here, as well as writing lyrics for 2 music albums. My life purpose is to engage, entertain, inform and inspire anyone seeking validation, healing and compassion. Content and lyrics created by author, Tami Atman. Podcast and music produced by LW Nolie.

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67 episodes!!!

TSSH 67 - Last Episode - STAY TUNED

Published 09/06/2022
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TSSH 66 - Karma Delivers And It Sucks

Published 03/25/2022
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TSSH 65 - Bigger! Better! Faster! More! Now!

Published 03/21/2022
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TSSH 64 - Now You See Me. Now You Don't.

Published 03/17/2022
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TSSH 63 - Be Silent And Obey The System ๐Ÿคซ

Published 02/22/2022
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TSSH 62 - 3 Miserable Musts And 8 Destructive Beliefs (Dr. Albert Ellis)

Published 02/18/2022
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TSSH 61 - Codependency Defined-Redefined-Explained-Renamed

Published 02/09/2022
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TSSH 60 - You Stay There. I Will Go Here.

Published 02/08/2022
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TSSH 59 - 10 Painfully Good Things And 10 Uncomfortable Great Things

Published 02/06/2022
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TSSH 58 - I'm Back. Less Bitter. Better.

Published 02/03/2022
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TSSH 57 - Seeing The Light With Gina Defa๐Ÿ•ฏ๏ธ

Published 03/24/2021
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TSSH 56 - Psychological Resilience With Dr. Lise Deguire โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿฉน

Published 03/08/2021
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TSSH 55 - Healing The Physical Effects From Parental Emotional Abuse With Special Guest - Vera Wilhelmsen๐Ÿค’

Published 02/24/2021
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TSSH 54 - STEPpin' It Up - A Surprising Reconciliation ๐Ÿ”‘๐Ÿ”“

Published 02/04/2021
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TSSH 53 - Creating Space For The Conversation With Colleen Perry ๐Ÿ”Š๐Ÿ‘‚

Published 01/28/2021
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TSSH 52 - Counter-dependency (Radical Self Reliance)๐Ÿค๐Ÿคซ

Published 01/12/2021
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TSSH 51 - A Poem And An Unsent Letter๐Ÿ–Š๏ธโœ๏ธ

Published 12/30/2020
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TSSH 50 - Subtle Abuse With Not So Subtle Results ๐Ÿ”จ๐Ÿงฐ

Published 12/09/2020
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TSSH 49 - Guilt And Shame Are NOT The Same ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

Published 12/03/2020
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TSSH 48 - Pain Of Thrones, Comparisons, Pedestals And Death Of Joy. < >

Published 11/19/2020
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TSSH 47 - Passion For Or Addiction To ???? ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง 

Published 11/05/2020
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TSSH 46 - Little Bent Not Broken ๐Ÿ’” Featured Guest: Marisa

Published 10/22/2020
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TSSH 45 - Musical Affirmation And Lyrical Validation ๐ŸŽน๐ŸŽญ

Published 10/06/2020
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TSSH 44 - Hail To The Gail - Founder Of The Buttrfly Effect ๐Ÿฆ‹

Published 09/23/2020
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TSSH 43 - 1 Single Revelation Every BIG STEP She Takes ๐ŸŽฉ๐Ÿ‘ข

Published 09/09/2020
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TSSH 42 - Dis-ease + Unmet Needs = Theraplease ๐Ÿ™

Published 08/25/2020
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TSSH 41 - Come On Baby, Gaslight My Fire ๐Ÿ”ฅ

Published 08/06/2020
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TSSH 40 - Grey Rock N' Roll ๐ŸŽธ

Published 07/23/2020
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TSSH 39 - Come Heal With Highwater ๐Ÿ’ง(Featured Guest: Annie Highwater)

Published 06/15/2020
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TSSH 38 - Healing Breadcrumbs To Nibble On ๐Ÿž๐Ÿฆœ (Featured Guest: Carol Campos)

Published 06/03/2020
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TSSH 37 - REAL - Actually Existing In Fact; Not Imagined - True Self & False Self

Published 06/01/2020
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TSSH 36 - Comfortably Miserable

Published 05/15/2020
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TSSH 35 - Human DOings & Human BEings

Published 05/08/2020
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TSSH 34 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic: Anger)

Published 04/24/2020
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TSSH 33 - The ART Of Healing Creatively ๐ŸŽจ๐Ÿ–Œ(Featured Guest: Jennifer Pazienza)

Published 04/21/2020
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TSSH 32 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic: Triggers)

Published 04/17/2020
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TSSH 31 - Nothing Good Comes From SHOULD ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Published 04/13/2020
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TSSH 30 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic: Setting Boundaries)

Published 04/09/2020
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TSSH 29 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic: Emotional Neglect)

Published 04/07/2020
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TSSH 28 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic: Family Systems)

Published 04/05/2020
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TSSH 27 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic: Respond Vs React)

Published 04/03/2020
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TSSH 26 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic: Perfectionism)

Published 04/01/2020
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TSSH 25 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic: Toxic Shame)

Published 03/30/2020
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TSSH 24 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic-Dissociation | Emotional Detachment)

Published 03/28/2020
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TSSH 23 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic-spirituality)

Published 03/23/2020
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TSSH 22 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic-emotionally Immature Parents)

Published 03/21/2020
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TSSH 21 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic-codependency)

Published 03/21/2020
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TSSH 20 - Heal In Place. Fill Your Still. (topic-abandonment)

Published 03/21/2020
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TSSH 19 - Minding Your Fulfillness-business Is Prophetable

Published 03/18/2020
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TSSH 18 - Overly ResponsiBULLoney ๐Ÿƒ+๐Ÿ’ฉ

Published 03/04/2020
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TSSH 17 - LegGO Of My EGgO ๐Ÿ‘‰ ๐Ÿง‡ ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Published 02/26/2020
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TSSH 16 - Untwisted Sistahs From The Same Mistah ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘งโ€๐Ÿ‘ง(Featured Guest: Yochi Yakir Avin)

Published 02/19/2020
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TSSH 15 - Henrietta Hippocampus ๐Ÿฆ›

Published 02/05/2020
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TSSH 14 - If I Go There Will Be Trouble, And If I Stay It Will Be Double ๐ŸŽต(The Clash 1982)

Published 01/29/2020
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TSSH 13 - Sorry My Birth Ruined Your Golf Game ๐ŸŒ๏ธโ€โ™‚๏ธโ›ณ๏ธ

Published 01/22/2020
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TSSH 12 - ME! Whatโ€™s Yours Is MINE! All About ME! Did I Mention ME? ๐Ÿ‘†

Published 01/15/2020
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TSSH 11 - Goo Goo Ga Ga Goes The Mama And Dada ๐Ÿผ

Published 01/08/2020
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TSSH 10 - AH-MIG-DAH-LA ๐Ÿง 

Published 12/30/2019
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TSSH 9 - EnCRUSHment ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿค—

Published 12/09/2019
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TSSH 8 - Merry Hell-iday. Please Pass The Fault ๐ŸŽ…๐Ÿป(Featured Guest: Rita Roberts)

Published 12/04/2019
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TSSH 7 - Manipuhaters ๐Ÿ˜ก

Published 11/26/2019
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TSSH 6 - Generally Stonewalling Jackasses ๐Ÿ‘Ž

Published 11/20/2019
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TSSH 5 - Don't Do The Hustle ๐Ÿ•บ๐Ÿป

Published 11/14/2019
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TSSH 4 - Trigger Crappy And Toxic Shame ๐Ÿคฎ

Published 11/06/2019
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TSSH 3 - Baby I Grieve Your Lovin' ๐ŸŽต

Published 10/30/2019
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TSSH 2 - Don't Drink Poison Just Cuz' You're Thirsty๐Ÿ™…โ€โ™‚๏ธ

Published 10/23/2019
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TSSH 1 - We Won't Treat You Like Family ๐Ÿคฏ

Published 10/16/2019
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